Life is Fun, When You Talk to Strangers!

Anoop Abraham
3 days ago
3 min read

Updated: 2 days ago

Some simple tips to connect better with new people

I used to be shy and awkward around new people, interacting much only on those rare occasions when I felt an instant connection.

But after multiple solo trips over the years, I’ve picked up a few things about making conversations with strangers. Now, meeting new people is something I look forward to and enjoy.

Over the past year I’ve walked into many events where I didn’t know anyone — open mics, concerts, foreign film screenings, stand-up comedy shows, drum circles, music and literature festivals. I ended up making lot of new friends and had a great time.

Here are simple but powerful tips to connect better with new people:

Lead with a smile and be friendly

Most people are guarded when meeting new people. This is not surprising since many of us have grown up hearing the words “don’t talk to strangers” from childhood.

But by simply smiling at people, you will instantly convey that you’re friendly, make them feel at ease, and in most cases, open to having a conversation. You will also find that many people will instantly smile back.

Don’t overthink

Don’t put yourself under needless pressure by thinking that the first words you say to someone should be something meaningful or witty. You could just walk up to them and say hi or introduce yourself.

That’s exactly what I did when I went for an Open-Mic last year. I spotted Freddy standing alone and I walked up to him and said hi. We have grown to become good friends and have hung out so many times since then that I have lost count.

All it takes is just starting the conversation. Things will usually naturally flow from there.

Give a Compliment

An easy conversation starter is to compliment someone if you notice something you genuinely like or appreciate about them – such as their hairstyle, dress or anything else that catches your attention. You could also ask a question regarding something about them that arouses your curiosity.

Put Yourself Out There

Approaching strangers might feel daunting or even scary, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. People generally respect someone who has the courage to start a conversation, and they'll usually respond politely and positively.

If you are willing to get out of your comfort zone you will always find a way to make conversation with new people, wherever you are.

Be Approachable

Sometimes all you need to do is to signal people with your body language that you are open to having a conversation and you may find that people may come up and speak to you.

If you are glued to your phone, people are going to get the message that you would rather not be bothered. So, if you are at a social gathering, resist the urge to take out your phone.

Life becomes richer and more meaningful when you strike up conversations with strangers and it’s something I can’t recommend highly enough.

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